Comparison is the thief of joy. Everyone has struggled with it most of their lives. It is simply a character flaw hidden somewhere deep in our heart, one of numerous shortcomings. Your own gifts, talents, success, contributions and value are entirely unique to you, not comparable to others.
I have lived most of my life comparing myself to others, job, title, income level, house size, and worldly success. Once we begin down that road, we never find an end. The tendency to compare ourselves to others is as human as any other emotion.
The negative effects of comparisons:
1). We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others.
2). Comparisons rob us of precious time.
3). You have nothing to gain, but much to lose, and often result in resentment.
How might we break free from this habit of comparison:
1). Become intimately aware of your own success. Whether you are a writer, musician, doctor, landscaper, mother, of student, you have unique experiences and gifts. You have the capacity to love, serve, and contribute. You have everything you need to accomplish good in your little section of the world.Become aware of your past successes.
2). Some of the greatest treasures in the world are hidden from sight, love, humility, empathy, selflessness, generosity. Desire them above everything else, and remove yourself entirely from society’s definition of success.
3). Compete less, Appreciate more. We have all been thrown together at this exact moment on this exact planet, and the sooner you stop competing against others to “win”, the faster we can start working together to figure it out.The most important step in overcoming the habit of competition is to appreciate and compliment the contributions to others.
4). Gratitute, Gratitute, Gratitute!!! Gratitute always forces us to recognize the good things we already have in our world.
5). Remind yourself nobody is perfect. Triumph requires an obstacle to be overcome.
6). Instead of comparison, finding inspiration and learning from others is entirely wise.
7). Work hard to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Learn to celebrate the little advancements you are making without comparing them to others.